You know how it goes – you see a hot girl on the other side of a club/bar and you want to approach her. However, you keep wondering “What will I tell her? What if she says no?”
Actually guys usually go a step further imaging the worse-case/never-happen scenario where the girl they’re looking at spills the wine on them, yelling something like “Get away from me you fugly moron!” That’s what triggers the approach anxiety – the fear of rejection.
Luckily that’s not how it works in real life? In real life if she doesn’t like you, she’ll be polite, perhaps even laying that she already has a boyfriend, trying not to insult you.
She rejected you, now what?
Nothing. If you’re cool, you are free to approach some other woman. In other words, if you’re developing yourself (very important for your self-confidence), she can’t harm you. You know you’re worth millions and millions and her opinion doesn’t matter.
Her opinion doesn’t matter!
I had to repeat that sentence. If it happens that she rejected you, that’s ok. Whatever she thinks isn’t relevant. She doesn’t know you and can’t judge you. Consequently, you shouldn’t be ashamed of her saying “no” to you. After all, by approaching her, you just turned out to be better than 99% of all the guys out there who are afraid of approaching women.
So what should you say to her?
Start with “hi.” As far as I know that’s the best opener in the world. She’ll say “hi” back to you and you’ll take it from there.
One word of caution – NEVER compliment on her body. Tease her about what she’s wearing. Or even better – focus on jewelry. Saying something like “those earrings are awesome, I should buy them for my sister. You know, she’s a hippie. Where did you get them?” will take you longer than “nice body, wanna spend the night with me naked?” In the sentence presented here I indicated she’s kind a hippie girl too, which is kinda teasy.
Then start teasing her even more, but let her do the talking. Once you get used to it, you become “natural.” But you *must* practice… with no fear whatsoever. Good luck! 😉
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